Thank your for your post. I “endure” because I truly believe you are worth it! Just to be fair, I’m sure you’ve also “endured” many of my craps. Fortunately, we were both “smart enough” to work through these “enduring” moments together and discover enlightening life lessons that end up enriching both of us separately and as a team. What I value so much about our relationship is that while we might not be the greatest person separately, some how we manage to bring out the better parts of each other. What can one ask for more than that?

With that said, we are all behaving like an idiot some times and we still fall on our face from time to time. I am starting to learn to accept that it’s only human that we make mistakes; mistakes are necessary part of life for us to learn and grow. There is no big point for beating our head over our mistakes for a long period of time (sure, as a human, I find it difficult not to be upset over my mistakes at least for a little). However, as my favorite coach John Wooden have said “You can make mistakes, but you aren’t a failure until you start blaming others for those mistakes. When you blame others you are trying to excuse yourself. When you make excuses you can’t properly evaluate yourself. Without proper self-evaluation, failure is inevitable” Yack, what a wake up call! If we would only listen, learn and embody what he said…

I reflect on my mistakes and failures (yes, failures per Coach Wooden’s definition), I got I still have so much work to do on myself in this realm. I’m truly touched that you called me a hero. I’m not sure I can call myself a hero (I don’t seek it). But one thing I know for sure, I am inspire to strive to be the best teammate I possible can be. Also, I want to build a team as strong as Coach Wooden’s team starting with us. As I struggle to understand what distinguish a winner from a loser, the best distinction I can come up with is that

Winner consistently develops, maintains and adopts growing number of winning habits over time while working toward eliminating their losing habits one-by-one everyday.

Loser consistently hanging on to and create reasons to justify for their losing habits while blaming others for each of their failures every time.

I got that we get to choose to be a winner or a loser everyday. The winner developed much higher % of winning habits than the losing habits; the loser have much higher % of losing habits than winning habits. Winning in life have NOTHING to do with how much money one have; there are plenty of very rich people that are losers and their life suffers (Charle Sheen, Tiger Wood,….). Instead, winning is about the peace of mind that resulted from the inner self knowing that we gave it our best whatever we do and to whoever we are with.

While like you, I also cannot promise you that I will never be an ass, an idiot and a fool, I can promise you that I am playing hard to be a winner. I know you are too!

It is true that getting true research on this subject can be difficult….

Alice

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