Be Healthier, Wealthier, and Happier

What are paths to happiness and peaceful living everyday?  This has been a question that I have pondered for years.  Through out the years, as I have slowly chipping away many things that I thought it was “me” but really not and start substituting the space with behaviors, people and habits that enriches me, I discovered that my life has indeed being quite happy and peaceful.  (This doesn’t mean I am never upset or angry or being judgmental, it just means that I get over quicker and often even upset turned into some wonderful golden nugget insight after I looked deeper and I often end up feeling quite grateful afterward for the broader prospective I discovered as result from it).  But, I still couldn’t quite put my fingers on articulating what the path to happiness and peaceful living really look like.

This morning as I was roaming about in my home and in the grocery store doing grocery shopping (my frig. is completely empty!), it dawn on me that one clear path to happiness and peaceful live is definitely being drama free!!! 

I’ve notices one thing that it really made a difference to me is when I decided to stop being interested in dramas around me nor do I feel obligated that I must participate or engage in the drama that is unfolding in front of me in any shape or form (i.e. taking sides, gossiping, joining in making others wrong or someone right, feeling guilty for being who I am…)!  I stopped feeling I absolutely need to join any drama just to fit in this world.  As I stopped giving my interest to my friends’ sob stories, my own sob stories … funny thing happened:  my own sob stories disappeared; those friends who used to love to “stop” in to share their sob stories for hours disappeared.  I really thought I would miss them a lot!  But the incredible thing is I discovered that I really didn’t!  I thought I’ll be really lonely with no friends to “fill” my life anymore,  but instead I found my life got all filled up with one idea after another and one dream after another that I can’t wait to go execute them! (This website being one).  Also, different types of friends start showing up in my life; those that want to discuss their ideas, their dreams and what they are up to with me, not just their sob stories.  Wow, in hindsight, I should have made this trade long time ago!!

I decided I still love dramas, but just not in my life and in my surrounding.  If I want drama, I would happily pay the $10 to go see it in a movie theatre or just give myself permission to play couch potatoes for couple hours and catch some soap opera on TV.  But in my own life, I’m declaring a drama free zone.

Yeah,  I’m so excited that this website is finally happening!  2001 seems like a year of rebirth for me; after being in the trenches in corporate America for over 14 years, I really thought I was playing big in life; climbing the corporate ladder; with tear, sweat, long hours, lot of proving and reproving….; slowly but surly inching toward my vision of what a successful career would look like for me – in a men’s world; So I thought…  Then I got invited to go to a personal development course.   I thought why not?  I can always improve on my communication skills, especially I’m a manager now; there are many situations that requires me to have better refined ways of communicating with my team and my boss.

I had no idea what I had signed up for then.  Instead of getting tricks and formulas to better communicate,  I got to see my whole life replay back in my head; one snap shot after another; one relationship after another; one job after another;  I was in tears.  I saw a frighten little girl pretending to be a strong, tough woman, stubbornly throwing her whole life into proving one and only point –  I’m just as good as any guys out there!  In the process, I ignored everything else: my happiness, my health and managing my own financial success.  I was sick to my stomach to realized I’ve had work so hard all these years in minding other people’s business and making others rich; yet I have contributed very little in minding my own business and building wealth  for myself and the people I care about.

As many people said, awareness is the first step toward giving us the option and the power to choose a different route than the one we are on.  Since 2001,  I have took myself on and committed to myself to work through everything I need to work through to create a life full of abundance, happiness and health – different than the one I’ve been on.   The journey wasn’t an easy one,  I was very glad to discover and utilze abundance of resources that is out there to assist me in working through and confront the dark corners, unconscious habits and incomplete pasts that I have forgotten about yet continue haunting me and impacting my life in ways that are not align with fufilling and enriching my life.

So, why am I so excited about this website?  I’m excited about this website because this is the vehicle that I get to finally share with you my journey, what I learned, what resources really helped me breakthrough what barriers and what resources really didn’t.  More importantly, I’m excited about the possibility for this website to grow to include a big community of you who are also actively creating happier, wealthier and healthier life for you.  This will be your vehicle and playground to celebrate your breakthrough, share what you learned and discovered, and send all your love and positive energy around the world.  Together, I’m confident that the world we are creating will definitely be a fun, loving, abundant and peaceful one. 

Meanwhile, my conclusion about life is: life is really not that bad afterall; as matter of fact,  life could be quite good if we are willing to just let it be sometime and pay attention, tune into and discover its greatness.   I discovered greatness do snowballs just like the negativities in this world.  The question is which channel are we committed to tune in.

I’m really looking forward to hearing your discoveries soon!!

1) Just be happy
2) Repeat step 1